I just had to return to this topic. I don’t know how often I will write about this because I am not spending much time looking any more. There are probably more productive ways to spend my time, like sleeping haha. Now before I get into this, I want to say I think Filipina are…
It is easy to get caught up in stereotypes and I am better than many at not letting that happen to me. It sometimes seems that most Filipinos prejudge expats in the Philippines because of the few that make the headlines. Sometimes what they write on their blogs is hurtful and completely inaccurate. Expats and visitors do it as well. I once found a picture of me on someone’s website with a one word caption on it. Playboy? I wrote “Haha, I wish”. He took it down, it wasn’t meant for me to find. A few months ago, I realized that I too could be guilty of jumping to conclusions and, in fact, I was. Many misjudge this fellow and so did I.
He is from Australia and he can get a bit rough in his language especially if he’s had a few too many beers. He has cut back though and I do not even see that very much anymore from him. Besides that though, he had a lot of young Filipina running around with him. Some were obviously underage. I thought he was defiantly up to no good.
I am becoming increasingly aware of a different type of human trafficking in the Philippines. Perhaps what I’m going to discuss doesn’t fall under human trafficking but maybe it should. I’m doubt it is exclusive to the Philippines but this is where I’m at so this is where I see it. I feel like the term human trafficking is being overused. Any time money changes hand in adult related activities it seems like someone wants to sensationalize that and call it human trafficking. Human trafficking has nothing to do with transporting humans in most cases. It is our modern word for slavery. Slavery is where one person has no choice, they are owned. Recently I have noted several times with poorer but working Filipinas are being treated like slaves. Well, at least in my mind. It appears to be human trafficking of Filipinos by Filipino’s. My guess is that Filipinos know more about this than I do, I hope you’ll speak up about it in the comments.
I have heard horror stories where Filipinas worked as domestic servants in the homes of other Filipinos. They are often locked in, subject to beatings, very low and sometimes no pay as the employer falls behind in their wages. Now I have met people that this is happening too. This may not run afoul of the human tracking laws. The reason is that they were written for sexual situations. Sometimes men that hire maids try to get more than their houses cleaned and that would be different. Maybe the laws should be changed to specifically include these kind of abuses. In my mind, it is just as morally wrong as human trafficking that involve adult activities.
It has been a wild ride since my last posting of romantic misadventures in the Philippines. Crazy time but it is like the flood gates opened and I’m finding good women again. Way too pretty, way too young for me to deserve. Of course with youth bring troubles of another kind. Highly emotional, no experience and unable to know how they will feel 20 minutes from now. Yes, I know, it comes with the territory. Of course the last couple of weeks has also been full of scammer girls and some I’m still not sure. I hate getting scammed and they are so good, I’m not sure haha.
This installment on the series is worse than normal but also better. I’m not heartbroken over any ove it. Laughing at myself some. I thought this girl was going to be a girlfriend. That lasted about two days. I wrote about it on social media but never had the chance to write about it here.
Foreigners love to talk about scamming Filipina but rarely do they discuss the evil intentions and lying of Foreigners living in or visiting the Philippines. Probably if there were more women bloggers that would change. Maybe not, I wonder if Filipina would be willing to disclose their own personal experiences. I think that most would not. I wrote a lot about the less that golden women lately so here we go with an examination of the guys. There are plenty of scamming men in the Philippines and many of them are foreigners living in the Philippines.
Many of them take advantage of naïve Filipina. Young women that don’t have much experience with men. Many girls, especially out in the provinces don’t have any boyfriends until they are 18 and even then they tend to be scared to death of men. Some will sneak around and have a boyfriend at a younger age. A lot will. That’s completely normal. But generally, it is not accepted in most families until the girl is 18. There was a policeman that caught his daughter in a shed with a boy in Bogo City. The boy ended up dead. I don’t really get that, he was just behaving like a normal young man.
One of the most difficult things about living in the Philippines is funding medical expenses. There is good and bad though. The good part is that the cost medical care in the Philippines is low. The troubling part is that in most cases, you will be required to pay for your medical cost before you check into a hospital or get outpatient treatment. It is up to you to file your insurance claims. I was probably seriously sick a few days ago. The symptoms were serious and if I had been in the USA and alone, I would have had to call an ambulance. What did I do here when I got sick in the Philippines? Nothing.
When the first symptoms showed its ugly face, I was not worried. Now when it happened the first time I was very worried. It was about ten years ago, maybe more. A large circular object formed in my vision. Unlike what many people get, this “floater” blocked most of my vision and didn’t go away in a second or two.
Most people think stroke, I know I did. Doctors at the ER told me “I don’t think this is in your brain but the blood vessels behind your eyes”. My eye doctor freaked out. Told me to call him anytime that this happens. My primary care doctor at the time treats me like a hypochondriac and told me there is usually no long term damage. In doctor speak that means virtually never.
I think it would be interesting for me to publish a series of articles about my adventures toward dating in the Philippines. I don’t know how often I will do it and I think it will mostly be a scam report. Those that tried to rip me off. I won’t mention names nor will I post any pictures of the actual women. The one exception to that no pictures is where I took the picture. I’ll just post pictures of women in the Philippines or other scenes in the Philippines.
Why am I calling it a scam report? Because most of the ladies are soon blocked for asking me for money. If I have any successes, I will write about those too. Last week, I wrote a story about one girl that appeared to be up to no good. I don’t know that but it seemed like it. That left me ready to quit. I did quit but several women approached me. Most of them scamming me. Though there is a possibility for one of them. She is one of the most beautiful women I’ve met but I’ve only met her online so far. There was another, she didn’t try to scam me but it didn’t work out.
Haggling in the Philippines is common in many shops. It is so common that it is never a bad idea to ask for “last price” even in large chain department stores. I don’t think I’ve done that in those but I probably should. It is so common here that you won’t be seen as foolish if you inquire and you might be foolish if you don’t.
Last week, I was walking down the street and someone wanted to sell me two Rolex watches. Of course, I assumed they were knock offs right from the start and said no. Since they were Rolex, I asked to see them. Who knows, maybe I’ll get lucky. He showed them to me and said “P4,500” to which I scoffed and walked off. He followed me though. Followed me all the way back to my hotel.
I met a nice looking Filipina last Sunday that I really liked during our first date. Of course it was way too soon to know for sure about her that early in and there was a red flag right away. There was no need for a chaperon though, that was a plus. As you may know when dating Filipina, a chaperon is often present on your first meeting.
I think what I expected of a Filipina played more of a role in my first impression of her than what actually turned out to be true. After all, I didn’t know her yet. She grew up on a farm, she’s been supporting herself since she was 19 and she’s now 24. She has no children and is attractive. Very promising lady but like I said there was an early red flag and things got worse. So bad, I thought it would make a good story.
Dating in the Philippines often includes a chaperon, especially on a first date. I don’t like those and it is really a meeting as opposed to a date. At least in my eyes. I avoid them but sometimes it is the only way. I remember one girl told me she might get bored if she did not have a friend there. I passed on that one. I am maybe too picky about who I meet. It isn’t so much about looks but I will admit, if she’s really hot I might put up with more junk to get the ball rolling. Hot and sweet and I am a sucker for whatever they want haha.
I recently met a nice Filipina named Karen. She’s sweet but a bit too slow to act for me. I took my camera of course so I thought I’d write about it. At first, she said she was going to bring her mother. I thought, oh wow, this will be fun. I will get grilled now. She ended up getting there very late as she fell to sleep and brought her daughter and sister instead. I didn’t take picture of her sister but did of Karen and her child. I think her child’s name is Krystal. She’s adorable.