I have been living in the Philippines for more than five years now. I have really enjoyed it and I hope to be here the rest of my life. I must say though, the last few months have been difficult. So I have missed several months of post of my expat journal. I will try to get you caught up and get back to writing on a regular basis.

A lot has happened in the last few months, some good and some bad. That bad has taken the wind out of me and I didn’t feel like blogging. Another problem is I need to upgrade the server. Each time I post an article the site goes down because it can’t handle the increase in traffic. I have deleted some sites so that will help and I am trying to work with HostGator to get the hosting upgraded.

Catching up on Living in the Philippines 2014

With this post, I’ll try to get my Philippines expat journal up to date. It shouldn’t be too hard since I will have forgottenCebu Philippines Sinulog many details by now. This will serve as my journal for January through May of 2014. If at all possible, I’ll be writing much more often now. Hopefully I can find a Filipina to keep me too busy to do it. 🙂

Raising Money for Typhoon Haiyan Victims during January of 2014

January was a fun but very busy month for me. I lead a fundraiser to aid those that were made homeless by Typhoon Haiyan or Yolanda. By using social media, namely Google Plus and FaceBook we raised over $1300 during the months of January and February. Most of the funds were raised through Google Plus but there were one or two larger donations from FaceBook as well.

I was very pleased with the results. I want to do a lot more of this but I don’t know how to go about it without appearing to always be looking for money. At least it isn’t money for me. During November, I received a lot of personal help and it was much needed. I was displaced by the storm.

I didn’t launch a fundraiser for myself but I did get a lot of help. I don’t know the exact amount but it was very close to $1000 and probably a bit more than $1000. Most of that came from my friends on Google Plus but some significant help also came via FaceBook. I will be starting a new fund raiser for the Yolanda victims as the need is still very great but people are no longer aware of that.

February 2014 Singled Distressing Change

Long time readers will likely remember that Jessie and I had some problems almost three years ago. Things never really became good again except for a few months. Also, they did become good again after Yolanda hit. When we were in Cebu City, I was seeing her a lot more and things got good. I even started to believe they would stay good. I didn’t want to go back to Bogo City as I was afraid things would go badly.

Last Picture of My FamilyIt took about three weeks and then suddenly Jessie wasn’t around much. Basically, I’d see her while she slept. Then sometime in February things went very south for me. I think Jessie is going through a difficult phase of her life. She feels old and unattractive. Of course she’s not old and she’s very attractive. She’s now 35 and I think by far the best looking 35 year old woman I know of. She’s just smoldering hot.

It doesn’t matter what I see though, what matters is what she sees. She wasn’t spending time with me at home and didn’t want me to go with her when she went out. She was staying out quite late. I felt like I was too much trouble. That’s really all I can say about it. Jessie is very private and she won’t like this much being exposed. I will respect her wishes.

I very nearly left March 1st but didn’t. I considered it in early February as well. I didn’t want to go. I wanted to go in April because I didn’t want another month of the same thing February and March had been. I stayed and things only got worse during April. Less arguing but that was because I gave up.  When Jessie was good to me it was awesome, couldn’t ask for more. She was my angel. That just makes all this so much harder. I still can’t really believe it but as time goes on and things just are not getting better with us, I guess this is the way it will be. The picture above is the last picture I will ever take of my family at our home in Bogo City.

Honestly it scares me, I don’t know what will become of me. My health is a major worry for me.

Living in Cebu City May 2014

On May 2nd, I was gone. A friend named Paul was good enough to drive up from Cebu City with his car and take me and my things to Cebu City. I checked into CebuView Tourist Inn and began my new life.

It got off to a very rocky start. The issues with my feet had returned, they were split and Jessie always took good care ofRusty and Jermain in the Philippines me. I no longer had her but she came down in a few days. And to further discourage me, everything is broken. My camera batteries won’t charge, my air con won’t cool and the freaking phone is dead in my room too. Last week the elevator died in the hotel. Glad I’m on the second floor.  At least my Internet connection has been decent.

It hasn’t been all bad. There have been some good moments. Unfortunately, they haven’t lasted long enough and I can’t really go into them at this point. Have run into my fair of scammers in the short time here and I may go into some of those in detail in another post.

Jessie had told me she would take her boys to Tacloban and stay with me in Cebu City. I never thought that would happen and was hard to understand since she had stayed away from me so much. Then I got very ill. I needed Jessie to come back but she didn’t. She did have things she needed to do but I was really sick. She still doesn’t really believe that. She did get one of her friends here in Cebu City to go get me meds and a few other things. That helped a lot. Paul’s wife also got some things for me on the same day.

I really thought I might die. I couldn’t breath. I really thought I might die. Now it’s the end of the month and I’m still not completely well. I got well but then relapsed. I am still not one hundred percent but hopefully I will continue to get better.

The picture on the left turned out to be our last family outing.  I don’t know if Jermain was acting like me on purpose but he is sitting just like me. Though cute at the time and I saw a smile on Jessie’s face when she took, it’s heartbreaking now. A reminder of  the situation between Jessie and myself affected more than just us. It’s very sad to me. I suppose I just have to go through this period.

Putting my Life in the Philippines Back Together

So now I’m picking up the pieces of my life in the Philippines or trying too. I am here to stay. My mood is not great. Being sick, not having enough cash and the end of a relationship with a woman I care deeply about isn’t exactly a recipe for overwhelming joy. Still, there’s only one way out of this and it’s up to me to make it happen. So I will blog more and hopefully get my income up. Online income has become much harder for a one man, low budget website like mine. I see it as crucial though. Depression keeps me from blogging.

Philippines Picking up the Pieces Sometimes my mood keeps me from writing and sometimes when I try to write someone does something that makes it hard to finish it. Being single will present new challenges for me and should provide a lot of new content. I am really worried about buy my medications, for example. Jessie always did it. I need to keep my nose to the grindstone and keep on working.

This will get you up to date with my life in the Philippines. I’ve always said that it’s nice here. I’ve had the best woman and the best time of my life here. I’m here to stay but it is not paradise. I try to learn from things that went wrong and just keep on doing what I do, namely surviving. As always, I hope to hear from you in the comments area and please plus, like and share to your favorite social network or all of them.

The above picture is of a lineman in Bogo City repairing phone lines.  When we left there was still no phone lines, dsl nor cable TV available. I thought a picture about rebuilding would fit in well with this blog post and my live in the Philippines.

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