So you want or have a long distance relationship with a Filipina. A Filipina girlfriend can be a marvelous thing. Like with any woman though, it can be like falling into a pit of common brown cobras. A long distance, online relationship with a Filipina is plagued with even more potential snake bites. They can workout though.

My long distance relationship with a Filipina worked out well. However, there were also a few snake bites along the way for me too. When you’re a long way off and the Filipina badly wants a foreign boyfriend, they tend to agree to anything. They often are fooling themselves. It is a fantasy and if you try to make it real and in person, they run away as they are often very shy. Men too often fool themselves when it comes to a long distance relationship with a Filipina.

Long Distance Relationship with a Filipina

My recommendation is to have many online contacts with Filipina but to make no promises. By all means, do not send money. In other long distance relationship with a filipinawords, do as I say and not as I did. It can work, you can find a good Filipina online. Even a good Filipina can be too scared to show up. Jessie was scared to death. She  very nearly didn’t show. If I were you, I would make lots of contacts, get lots of phone numbers and meet as many as you can.

Most of you have no idea of how sought after you will be once you are here.  There are almost no single foreigners in the Philippines. There is no reason for you to rush into anything. Most of us are over 40 when we come to the Philippines. Latching onto a long distance sexy Filipina is an easy thing to do. It is easy to think that she is your only chance at happiness. I can assure you, she is not the only one. You must stop thinking with your past. When you arrive in the Philippines, it is a totally new beginning with many opportunities that you probably cannot imagine.

What Do Filipina Really Want?

This depends on the woman of course. Many want a better life, some want cash. Some want only cash and if their plans workout you will never lay eyes on them outside of a webcam. Believe it or not, some just want you.

Once again, this is a topic where so many will say it is always about the money. It is NOT always about the money. Usually, that is a part of it. However, I’ve seen so many poverty stricken Filipina turn their nose up at a guy with a lot of money. Someone actually asked Jessie if he could buy her from me and he was serious. Though, I doubt he meant to give the money to me. He had a lot of money, he was sitting with her at a Bantayan Island resort when he asked her that. I was in our room. She could have had a lot of money but she told him “Rusty would never sell me.” She even likes the guy. It isn’t always about the money.  Do I think Jessie wanting a better life was part of the equation with me? Yes I do. Jessie wanted no man when I met her and that was okay with me because I was done with women too. We were strictly friends for a long time. My long distance relationship with a Filipina developed over a year. 


Have you ever seen a woman choose a broke guy over a guy with a boatload of cash? I have. It happens a lot in the USA and probably other Western countries. It also happens right here. Part of this kind of thinking,  that is always about the cash, stems from the brain barrier between men and women. Women think differently than we men do. I don’t claim to understand their thinking but I have seen women do what appears to be insanely stupid. Sometimes by very smart women. I wish I did fully understand the difference between the thinking of men and women.  Though I think women prefer we not understand.

Men are easier to understand but I think women don’t fully understand us too. For men, it seems to always be about sex. I think that is superficial but I’m not going to go deeply into that. I think sex is more like a symptom of what men are really after but are unable to admit that often. They can’t admit it even to  themselves.

Are all Filipina After a Foreign Man?

I know some men that think so. I heard an American once say he could have any Filipina he wanted. Wow, talking about a man without a clue. Some Filipina don’t like us at all. I know a Filipina that didn’t ever think she would be involved with a foreigner. Her family doesn’t like foreigners in general. She says she was never like that but that she never thought she would be with a foreigner. Now at 23 she finds that she is very much attached to one foreigner.

One way to tell if a Filipina is seeking a foreigner is to look at their friends list on FaceBook or Tagged. If it is full of foreign men then that’s what she’s looking for. If you are her only foreign friend then clearly she wasn’t looking for a foreigner. I don’t know how much of a difference that makes for the future of your relationship but it could mean she’s going with the first guy that actually shows up.

Some Danger Signs in a Long Distance Relationship with a Filipina

Often it is easy to quickly determine the girl is just a scam artist. Some of them are very good at it.  If they ask for money in the first conversation that’s a really bad sign. The experts won’t do that though. My favorite was the girl that told me she needed to buy oxygen for her mother.  Another that I met in a chat room asked me to marry her after fifteen minutes. That’s a long  story for another article.

Girls that work in bikini bars are often call bargirls. They are ladies of the night. In their off hours, they often spend it on the net looking to make some money. Some of these Filipina are very good at it and it might take you a while to realize you’ve been scammed. Bargirls are professionals of the distant relationship with a Filipina line of work.

Bargirls often live in a room  provided by the bar’s owners. Often six girls to a room. They teach the new ones the tricks of the trade ofLong sistance Filipina earning money online. They even share a common cell phone at times or have access to the girl’s phone that you’ve been talking to. I even had several girls give me the same number. So get their cell phone number right away. You’ll need it if you’re going to contact her once you are in the Philippines.

One big red flag is if, over time, you find the girl doesn’t seem to remember previous conversations on a regular basis. Text her enough to learn her typing style. Does it change? Does her English seem great one day and horrible another. Have you called her? Who answered her cell phone?


If you are in a long distance relationship with a Filipina, you need to have her FaceBook page. If she already has a boyfriend or husband, you can often find out there. If she won’t tell you where her FaceBook page is, I’d be very suspicious.  Get her email address and search for it. She very well may give you an email address not linked to her FaceBook account though. She also is likely to have a Tagged account.

No single red flag should spell doom for you. If they start adding up though, probably there is a problem. I’m lucky to have ended up with Jessie but once again, I strongly suggest that you don’t do as I did. Instead, get contact information and keep it light until you meet them. There are great women online but the professionals are so good that it is hard to know if that is what you’ve found instead. There are lots of them. So many, I would not be surprised if the syndicate is involved in the distant relationship with a Filipina business.

In the comments section, tell us if you have had a long distance relationship with a Filipina and tell us how it went or how it is going. Have you met her?  Have you run into scammers? Do you have other thoughts? Are you married to a Filipina? Go ahead, tell us what you think.

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